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Couldn't sleep, obviously. So I drove to her house and knocked on her window and we talked.

My only bitter consolation is that she knows she's being stupid. Now the stress-test begins.

^{Do Not Try To Change Her Mind Give Up Now Walk Away It Can Only Get Worse Do Not Try To Change Her Mind Give Up Now Walk Away It Can Only Get Worse Do Not Try To Change Her Mind Give Up Now Walk Away It Can Only Get Worse Do Not Try To Change Her Mind Give Up Now Walk Away It Can Only Get Worse Do Not Try To Change Her Mind Give Up Now Walk Away It Can Only Get Worse Do Not Try To Change Her Mind Give Up Now Walk Away It Can Only Get Worse Do Not Try To Change Her Mind Give Up Now Walk Away It Can Only Get Worse Do Not Try To Change Her Mind Give Up Now Walk Away It Can Only Get Worse}

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[mirabilevisu.livejournal.com]

you're very right, learning from this mess will help guide my actions - and words - in the future. it is teaching me more about my responsibilities regarding impressions and word choice, and also about trying to be more in tune with the intentions (or lack thereof) of those around me.

and yes, i am responsible for those words and actions.
however, i am not responsible for how people respond/react to my words and actions.

if i punch a man, i am responsible for his broken jaw, but i am not responsible for him hitting me back.
if i hurt a man, i am responsible for his pain, but i am not responsible for his expression of that pain.

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[getting drawn into a philisophical discussion despite himself]
Aaaah but the line is arbitrary!

If I steal a lifeguard's hat, am I responsible for his sunburn? He could _choose_ to stay inside. Yes/no?
If I shout "FIRE!" in a crowded movie theatre, and people panic and a child gets trampled to death, am I responsible for that? Yes/no?

That's a little more fuzzy than yes/no, ... no? Besides, we both agreed that, "If it affects me, it becomes my business." For example:

Would it be an adequate cover of my actions, if I demolished a building, and then annonunced I had done so and said "By the way, I demolished a building. You might want to make sure your friends weren't in it."
Or would it be more responsible to say something like, "Oh by the way, I'm about to demolish a building. You might want to make sure your friends aren't in it."?
The first statement is worthless, the second statement is valuable. And the only difference is timing.

This applies rather directly to what just happened, I think...
Thoughts?

[mirabilevisu.livejournal.com]

with the way you and i throw metaphors around
it's amazing we communicate at all
maybe that's the trouble