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[garote]

Dude, ... jealous? Jealous of her friends?

Let's face facts, you and me: Anyone who is jealous of her friends, does not survive dating her long.

Two reasons:

1. Anyone who would force her to choose, would make the correct choice obvious.
2. It's beyond anyone's control: If her friends do not see her within a certain time, they will verily proceed to her home and drag her out the door. One year they pooled their money and planted a tracking device in her wrist, to make the job easier.

We've all dated enough people to know how it works:

If you don't trust her to come back,
she won't.

Therefore, it's always a better bet to trust her.
Thoughts, anyone?

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[garote]

Well, if you're not getting enough attention, there are, of course, only two things you can do: Learn to live with less attention, or get more.

But how do you get more? Telling your partner to spend less time with his/her friends might backfire. Some people get much-needed relaxation and healing from their friends. Some people would resent you for demanding more time than they feel like giving. All kinds of things could go wrong.

Sometimes relationships are work. Sometimes when your partner says, "I miss you, I wish we could spend more time together", you'll have to rearrange your schedule, cancel an appointment, or give up some private time, to help them out.

I don't think there's and hard-and-fast rule you can apply to this situation, to know what you should do. I know one thing, though -- if you're with the right person, the work you invest will feel worth it. It probably won't even feel like work -- it will be a pleasure, and making them happy will reciprocate.

On the other side of this, there's something we should all watch out for. A demon called "co-dependency". If you NEED a lot of attention to be happy, and refuse to get that attention from more than one source, you WILL have relationship problems. It's practically inevitable.

Those are my thoughts, anyway.

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