Some thoughts

[garote]

Recently I was chatting with someone online who had just been through a difficult breakup, with a fellow who was rather abusive. I made an observation that, in retrospect, was pretty interesting:

"In a good relationship, I should not HAVE to worry about acting differently in the past for the sake of the present. I should be able to act in the present, to fix any problem at hand.
And if I feel like I can't, if I find myself obsessing over the past instead, then it is time to move on, to someone or something I am able to work with."

For a long time, I was, basically, exhausted, and unable to work on anything. It was because I was in a situation that I did not know how to fix.

On Monday, I went out, by myself, to a pub called the Starry Plough, and took a free Irish dancing lesson. I got embarrassingly sweaty, but I had a good time. This is what I need more of. I need to be out in the world making face-to-face interaction with other people, so I don't stay wedged in my own head, and buried in work.

I haven't had a long vacation from work in ... let's see ... ten months? Eleven? Perhaps it's time for a bike trip, a real adventure, despite the turning of the weather. I wonder if it's not too late to head through Yosemite and Death Valley...

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[lutin.livejournal.com]

Hey! My Morris dancers started at the Starry Plough! Some of them even still go there for the dancing. :)

[garote]

That reminds me .. when are you in the area?

[lutin.livejournal.com]

My flights are booked for Nov. 30 - Jan. 15, but I still might have to change the first leg modulo some requirements here. (In which case, I would arrive around Dec. 7.)


Since it sounds like you can dance, the three things I'd like to do together are:

1) Starry Plough!
2) bike-venture! (or hike-venture!)
3) that laptop I mentioned in another thread

I'm also going to try going to the Morris dancing nights, too. And, I'm looking into starting waltz lessons here (and looking forward to tango lessons in Groningen!).

[lutin.livejournal.com]

If you like ballroom, or are interested, I know there's a weekly or bi-weekly ballroom event in Oakland. I think it starts with lessons, too. I could ask Claudi or Steve or Jonsi (all Morris dancers) for the details.

[garote]

Ballroom! Neato!! Does it require dressing up fancy? Because I'm still pretty amateur at that...

[lutin.livejournal.com]

I never went, I have no idea. I know there are balls (fancy!) but this just sounded like a get-out-and-dance event.