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When I've been spending time with someone new, and I wonder how things are shaping up, I have a tendency to take the nuances of people I used to know, and use that old information to fill in the gaps. It would be better to wait patiently for more information than to assume I can guess what's going on.

This is especially dangerous when the people I used to know had problems, which only became obvious later, and had no clear warning signs. It makes me jump at shadows.

I should be patient. But in the meantime, what do I do with this damned feeling like something isn't adding up? A feeling I inherited from a previous relationship?